In my brief preparation for this topic, I first learned that I’ve been using “frugality” as a 1:1 synonym for “misery” or “stingy” when that’s not entirely accurate or helpful. I really enjoyed the following article’s articulation of the differences as well as covering the deeper impact/costs that stingy behavior can lead to. https://www.softmindindia.com/Blog/hidden-costs-of-being-stingy The […]
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This session’s discussion topic is all about the process of making and receiving meaningful, genuine amends in response to hurt experienced in relationships. Without a holistic model to reference, I still recall how painful, lacking, and unhealthy the “apologies” I received and issued during my childhood were. My authoritarian father (likely undiagnosed OCPD) would enforce
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After a string of rather heavy discussion topics (Burnout, Big Life Changes, and Depression), we’ve finally arrived at the light at the end of the tunnel, hope(fully)! Even if you’ve only attended a single Zoom meeting, you’ve likely witnessed my zeal for Brené Brown’s life work. Her research and books have been foundational to my
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We’ve covered OCPD & Burnout and the stress from Big Life Changes and now we’re going to focus on Depression more specifically. In my brief research for this topic I was reminded of how there are cultural, colloquial uses of terms that sometimes differ from their clinical definition. It has been helpful for me over
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In my experience, the whole concept of reconciling my personality disorder diagnosis with the goal of self-acceptance truly felt like one of life’s greatest paradoxes. How do we accept and love ourselves fully when it feels like there is still something inherently, significantly wrong with us? Won’t accepting myself mean that I no longer believe
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During our last session we discussed OCPD & Burnout and went over several contributing factors that can lead to burnout, like chronic stress. One area that often creates high levels of stress are significant life changes. Adjusting to major life changes can be difficult for everyone but it might feel especially stressful if you have
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There’s a high likelihood that those of us with OCPD have probably already had firsthand experience with burnout. Why do I feel so confident? Because, as far as maladaptive coping strategies go, OCPD behavior is incredibly energy depleting and ultimately unsustainable so it stands to reason we will inevitably reach our limits. While the modern
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Hi all, it’s Cale again! I’m back from my travels across middle America and find myself more than a little overwhelmed as I try to reintegrate back into some semblance of a routine. This topic suggestion is incredibly relevant for me as I pivot away from self-employment toward full time employment with whatever generic company
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Cale here! I’ve been on vacation for the past couple of weeks and, unfortunately, haven’t much time to invest in pre-meeting questions and resources. I’m curious to see what questions and issues come up for us during the group discussion time. The first thing that stands out to me is the distinction between how those
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In “Atlas of the Heart”, the section on Resentment is, perhaps surprisingly, grouped under the larger umbrella of Comparison. Below is an abridged section on Resentment as well as some reflection questions added afterwards. Atlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience Book by Brené Brown Places We Go When
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